Links of the Week

  1. Michael Hyatt on How to handle people who abuse trust.
  2. Can’t wait for this book to come out.
  3. Tim Keller on Politics and Culture. So many good insights in this piece, but what else would you expect from Tim Keller.
  4. Why Christians go postal over facebook, Jay-Z, Yoga, Avatar and culture in general. I think most Christians go crazy online because they can do it from the comfort of their home.
  5. Ed Stetzer on Trends in church planting.
  6. Growing generosity in kids at Christmas. As a parent, this was a really helpful article.
  7. Mark Driscoll on 10 ways the doctrine of suffering is mistaught. Great insights into how we should handle and think about suffering from a biblical perspective.
  8. Ron Edmondson on 5 do’s and don’ts of how to deal with pastors during the christmas season.
  9. Two reasons church planters often avoid big cities.
  10. Tony Morgan on 10 keys to creating a staff strategy. Great insights.
  11. Here is a great video interview with D.A. Carson. Definitely worth the time, so much wisdom.
  12. Baptisms at an Acts 29 church in Alaska. It was 10 degrees and snowing. These pictures are a beautiful picture of the gospel.
  13. Mark Driscoll on What we tell our kids about Santa Claus. Helpful piece for parents.
  14. Is it disrespectful to Jesus to call it Xmas?

Top Posts for October 2010

In case you missed them, here are the top posts for the last month:

  1. Links of the Week (vision casting, sexual detox, cross centered thinking, being anti-Christian, Christianity and yoga, and Men’s health best weight loss tips).
  2. The Role of Men in the Family
  3. Why Did Jesus’ Mom Need to be a Virgin?
  4. Radical: Taking Back Your Faith from the American Dream
  5. What Attracts People to Church?
  6. Planning a Preaching Calendar
  7. Church Greeters and Hand Sanitizers
  8. My Weight Loss “Secret”
  9. How to Plant a Church in 3 Minutes
  10. Being a Pastor’s Wife

My Weight Loss “Secret”

Over the last several weeks I’ve been asked by numerous people about what my secret has been to losing weight. Since I’m not expert (you should read Men’s health for that), but I can share what I’ve done.

You need to understand something about my secret, it takes awhile.

Let me explain.

In 2002 when Katie and I got married I was a nice 283 and a waise 42. This was my heaviest. Here’s a pic.

fat me 2

As always, Katie looks hot. Not sure how I conned her into marrying me.

One thing you need to understand is that I have a deep love for food and it loves me. I’m not much of a snacker, I’m an eater. So when I would eat, I would eat. A lot.

We never really did any diets because I had seen countless people lose 100 in 6 months and then put 120 back on in 3, so I wanted something that was sustainable.

In talking with my doctor, he mentioned that being healthy was the goal. That you could be skinny and be unhealthy, so the goal was health.

We started cutting out chips, soda (this is one of the best thing you stop doing and start drinking more water), cutting back on Starbucks (this has hurt the most). We do dessert once a week (at least we try to stick to that, Katie has a sweet tooth). The biggest thing we did was portion control. When we would go out to eat, I would eat my meal and half of Katie’s. Now, we share. It is healthy and economical. There are also websites that show you how many calories are in each meal at each restaurant, so when you go out to eat you are able to eat smarter.

Speaking of eating out, we do that less. Cooking at home is cheaper and a lot healthier.

What do I normally eat?

For breakfast, 2 eggs and some fruit. Lunch is a salad and dinner is something good. We still grill burgers, brats and steak. I love meat too much to not eat that, but we make vegetables the main part instead of the meat. No bread (even though I personally love carbs), it is just lighter. There are a lot of calories in bread.

Speaking of calories, I don’t count them. I actually have no idea how many I have in a day. They are too good to discriminate against. But they say that if you are an active male you should target 1800 – 2100 a day. We end each dinner with a salad. This helps with digestion. Ironically, this is how Europeans end meals and they are skinnier. Mmmm. We also eat slower. With eating more at home, we are able to enjoy our kids, company and each other.

So review, eat smaller portions, better choices of the food you eat, stop eating before you get full.

Now the exercise side.

I do something 6 days a week. Whether that is running or lifting. On the days I walk or don’t do any of the 2, I do yoga. This has been huge for my joints and helping me to recover but also to feel younger. The important thing is to do something. I’ve read that if you can do something active for 60 minutes a day several times a week you will see a difference. This is true.

This will not get you dramatic results. I’ve lost 130 pounds in 7 years, but I’ve about 100 in the last 2 years (that’s when I got hardcore about it). I went from a waist 42 to a 30 and my shirt size has gone from an XXL to a S. It is still crazy to me to write those stats.

One of the things I had to get to the heart of was why I ate, why I was overweight. The psychological part is a huge part of weight gain/loss. I remember a conversation with one of my brother-in-laws (who happens to be skinny, I married into a skinny genes family) and he made the comment, “I don’t understand how all of these overweight pastors can stand up and talk about self control when it is obvious they don’t have any.” Now, every overweight person does not have self control issues, but I did. I had to learn that I used food for stress relief and also to comfort me. Things that God, exercise and relationships could and should do.

Anyway, I could go on, but I’m running low on words.

This is what I look like now.


For some more great thoughts on this, check out Ed Stetzers blog, he lost a lot more weight than I did. Here’s part 1 and part 2 (the pictures are crazy).

Links of the Week

  1. The Role of Vision Casting in Preaching. I was talking with D.J. about this the other day. Very few pastors understand the power they have when they preach in terms of leadership and vision casting. Their preaching sets the tone for the church.
  2. “Sexual Detox” is now available. This is a great little book on porn, sexuality from a man’s perspective. If you are struggling with porn, this is definitely worth picking up.
  3. Collide Magazine on Who do you create for. This is a great question that many worship leaders and pastors never ask, let alone answer. If you don’t know who will be in your audience this weekend, how do you know who you are speaking to, what their needs are and what and how you will need to communicate.
  4. Justin Holcomb on 12 ways to make your teaching and writing anti-Christian. Sadly many pastors and churches these.
  5. C.J. Mahaney on The humbling power of cross-centered thinking.
  6. Al Mohler on Christianity and Yoga. This was a really helpful and thorough article. I practice yoga, but don’t meditate or pray or look for energy when I do it, for me it is about stretching and staying limber as I grow older. According to Mohler, “I don’t do yoga, I do stretching.” It is a helpful distinction and I think Christians need to be aware of where yoga came from and what it is really all about and be careful, but I also don’t think that it is wrong for a Christian to practice yoga.
  7. Steven Furticks book Sun Stand Still is only $6.99 on amazon. This was one of the best books I read all year and easily one of the best on the topics of faith and prayer. If you want a book to challenge to have big faith, pray big prayers and believe in a big God, this is the book.
  8. I’m hoping that Apple will block the new iPhone “pimp” app. Read more about it here and how to tell Apple to block it. This would be disastrous for the fight against sex trafficking if they allowed this app to be put on the iPhone.
  9. Ben Roethlisberger is back at practice. This makes me so happy.
  10. Men’s Health 20 Best Weight loss tips. Many of these have helped me over the last 2 years lose over 100 pounds.