You’re One Choice Away from Wrecking Your Life


Last night I watched on twitter as the news of Pastor Isaac Hunter became public. He was a megachurch pastor in Florida who resigned because of an affair and on Tuesday night, tragically took his own life.

I was immediately filled with sadness for this man, his family and his church. I’ve never met him, but I can’t imagine the pain they are going through. How do you adequately explain this to a church? How do you help people struggling with faith who see their leader take this path? How do you help his kids understand why he cheated? Why he killed himself? How do you console his wife in the midst of the affair and now a suicide? For his parents, having to bury a child, something no parent should endure.

Here’s why this hit home for me:

  • Isaac was 36. I’m 34.
  • Isaac had 3 kids. I have 5.
  • Isaac was a pastor. I’m a pastor.

Many people will get up on their high horses in this situation, questioning his character and salvation and faith. The reality is, we are all like Isaac. We are all one choice away from wrecking our lives. 

Every moment, we are one step away from ruining our marriages, career, calling and reputation.

I remember a few years ago when the story was of Gary Lamb and his situation. I sat there with Katie and we talked about how to make our boundaries stronger in our marriage.

Don’t get on your high horse. Situations like this should bring tears and humility. They should cause us to stop and imagine what happens if we make that dreadful choice and wreck our lives.

I’m always amazed at professional athletes and their willingness to try and cheat with PED’s, get caught and lose millions. They are playing with fire. So are many others in smaller ways, but in equally damaging ways.

Remember, you are one choice away from wrecking your life. 


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Links of the Week

  1. Listen to the new EP from Mar Hill worship band Ghost Ship. It’s a good one.
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  3. Free Advent resource for individuals and families from The Village Church.
  4. Leadership Network on New megachurch research.
  5. Michael Kelley on God will not give you more than you can handle.
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  8. Grace Driscoll on Transitioning from the workplace to the workhome. Some practical insights that go with my sermon on Titus 2.
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  10. Bob Franquiz on Huge outreach results on a limited budget.
  11. Scott Williams on 5 reasons why organizations and individuals fail.
  12. The role of preaching in church planting.

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  5. Mike Breen on what the American church will look like in 10 years.
  6. Gospel Coalition on importan female voices in the church.
  7. Andy Stanley on Creating a come and see culture.

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  3. Ed Stetzer on Denominations.
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  10. Top 5 reasons why people don’t give to your church.

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  3. Are you protecting yourself online? Many people aren’t so here are some helpful things to protect yourself, especially on facebook and twitter.
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