Breaking the Chains of Addiction


I spoke on addiction today at Revolution Church. If you missed it, you can listen to it here.

As a way to help men and women stuck in what seems a losing battle against addiction, temptation, negative emotions and be able to move forward by choosing the hard right over the easy wrong, here is a list of resources we put together to help.

My good friend Brian Howard also has a blog about 4 ways to protect your house from porn, which I would highly recommend if that is a struggle for you or your kids.


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Links I Like

Links I Like is a collection of blogs, articles and books I’ve come across recently and thought they were worth sharing. Click here for past Links I Like.


Porn hurts women.

Imagine being the woman who has to convince herself not to take it personally when her husband would rather “whet his appetite” by ogling another woman. It’s just the way men are wired; they can’t help it. It’s got nothing to do with me.But her man arouses himself with enhanced, airbrushed images of nineteen year-olds willing to humiliate and abuse themselves. It’s hard to pretend everything’s alright when she’s pretty sure he’s thinking of other women while he has sex with her.

Ron Edmondson on How physical training helps spiritual training.

One would have to be living under a rock to not know we have grown larger as a people in the United States. Obesity is a growing concern in our nation. And, few in the church have bothered with the issue or even seen it as a problem. We have no problem addressing issues such as greed or guilt, but seldom do we approach the word gluttony. Yet, in my opinion, and experience, how I feel physically almost always impacts my spiritual life.

When women lust.

We all know that men struggle with lust. But what about women? While it’s becoming more common to hear of women’s struggles with pornography use, many women still perceive that they have the moral high ground over men. Such comparisons don’t help because men and women often struggle in different ways.


Stephen Altrogge on The internet makes us all miserable.

In the good old days of jealousy and comparison and coveting, we compared ourselves to those close to us. When someone near to us succeeded, we felt like a failure. But the good old days are gone. Now, thanks to the Internet, we can feel like failures all the time.

FREE Book on Helping Your Kids Fight for Purity

If you are parent, you need to check this out. You may think purity and having to worry about your kids encountering porn is years away, you may want to think again.

Chris Spradlin has released a new e-book that is currently available for FREE Download. The book is a candid look at how to fight for purity for our kids in a sex saturated world. I think the title says it all “Sex, Lust and XXX.” Download it now, read it and be sure to check out his daily posts over at 

Thanks to Big is the New Small for the link.

Links of the Week

  1. Why smart pastors fail.
  2. Scott Williams on Ladies, stop lusting after your pastor.
  3. How Bill Hybels and Andy Stanley think about the weekend services. This stuff is gold.
  4. Tim Keller on Why churches should be allowed to meet in public schools in NYC. Ed Stetzer also has some great thoughts about why this is a problem that you can read here.
  5. A letter from Mark Driscoll about the state and the future of Acts 29. This is one reason I’m thankful Revolution is part of Acts 29.
  6. Justyn Smith on Leading leaders.
  7. What a young husband ought to know.
  8. J.D. Greear on Avoiding burnout part 1, part 2 and part 3. This stuff is so, so helpful.
  9. Grace Driscoll on 10 ways to honor your husband. Grateful for Katie and how she lives these out in our marriage.

Book Recommendations for Dealing with Porn, Sexual Addiction, and Adultery (From Tonight’s Sermon)

If tonight challenged you and you want some resources to check out, here you go:

Sex, Romance and the Glory of God: What Every Christian Husband Needs to Know (C.J. Mahaney)
Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time (Stephen Arterburn)
Every Heart Restored: A Wife’s Guide to Healing in the Wake of a Husband’s Sexual Sin (Fred & Brenda Stoeker)
Every Woman’s Battle: Discovering God’s Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment (Shannon Ethridge)
The Sexually Confident Wife: Connecting with Your Husband [Mind-Body-Heart-Spirit] (Shannon Ethridge)
Every Single Woman’s Battle (Shannon Ethridge)
Every Single Man’s Battle (Stephen Arterburn)

Here are some sites to download software for your computer:

This Weekend: The One Thing that can Kill Your Marriage (Before & After it Starts)

What is amazing to me is how careless so many couples and people are. So many couples are killing their marriage, some realize it and are doing nothing about it, and others have no idea and will wake up one day with a shell of what used to be a relationship. So many people who aren’t married right now, are destroying their marriage before it gets off the ground and they have no idea the let down, disappointment and heartache that awaits them because of what they are doing.

What am I talking about?

That’s what we’ll uncover Saturday at Revolution as we continue our series I Want a New Marriage.

In case you aren’t convinced yet, here are 6 reasons you and everyone you know needs to be at Revolution this Saturday.

As an added bonus this week, we’ll be doing Q & A, which is always fun (especially around this topic).

See you Saturday at 5!

6 Reasons You Need to be at Revolution Saturday!

  1. I am preaching on SEX and it will be the most honest, direct, no holds barred talk I have ever given on ANY topic at Revolution.
  2. Hearing and applying this message can save your marriage now, protect your marriage in the future, and prepare you to get into marriage on the right foot.
  3. Many of us struggle right now because of our sexual history and God wants to free us from that and he wants us to move forward, forgiven.
  4. Many of us experience attacks on our minds, emotions and relationships that we don’t know how to handle or don’t know where they are coming from. We need to learn to protect ourselves, our marriages and our families.
  5. Many of us have not even thought about how to protect ourselves, our eyes, our kids and our marriages from the destructions of an affair, sexual addiction or porn. That needs to change.
  6. I will be singing a country love song.

All of those are true, except one.

See you Saturday night to figure out which one!

Next Series: I Want a New Marriage

This fall, we are preaching line by line through the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5 – 7). It is Jesus’ longest recorded sermon and covers everything from heaven, hell, marriage, money, prayer, fasting, forgiveness, and what it means to follow Jesus.

To go through this sermon, we are breaking it into 4 smaller series. The second series is called I Want a New Marriage.


The stats on marriage are alarming: 50% of marriages end in divorce. Of the couples that stay married, 2 out of 5 are happy. Which means, if you get married, you have a 20% of staying married and being happy.

Those are terrible odds.

So, how do you get to be part of the 20%? That’s what this series is all about.

While this is a series on marriage, we will get into all aspects of relationships. How do you prepare for marriage if you aren’t married? Are there things you can do to make your marriage win if you aren’t married? What do you do if you are in an unhappy marriage? What does God say about divorce? Is it ever okay? What about lust, adultery? What if I get hurt, do I need to forgive the person who hurt me, or can I make their life miserable?

The series looks like this:

  • September 26: Moving Forward (Matthew 5:21 – 26)
  • October 3: The One Thing That can Kill Your Marriage (Matthew 5:27 – 30)
  • October 10: What’s Got to Happen for my Marriage to Work (Matthew 5:31 – 32)
  • October 17: What I Said Yes To (Matthew 5:33 – 37)
  • October 24: From This Moment (Matthew 5:38 – 48)

Go here to send an e-invite to someone for this series.