Links I Like

Links I Like is a collection of blogs, articles and books I’ve come across recently and thought they were worth sharing. Click here for past Links I Like.

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Porn hurts women.

Imagine being the woman who has to convince herself not to take it personally when her husband would rather “whet his appetite” by ogling another woman. It’s just the way men are wired; they can’t help it. It’s got nothing to do with me.But her man arouses himself with enhanced, airbrushed images of nineteen year-olds willing to humiliate and abuse themselves. It’s hard to pretend everything’s alright when she’s pretty sure he’s thinking of other women while he has sex with her.

Ron Edmondson on How physical training helps spiritual training.

One would have to be living under a rock to not know we have grown larger as a people in the United States. Obesity is a growing concern in our nation. And, few in the church have bothered with the issue or even seen it as a problem. We have no problem addressing issues such as greed or guilt, but seldom do we approach the word gluttony. Yet, in my opinion, and experience, how I feel physically almost always impacts my spiritual life.

When women lust.

We all know that men struggle with lust. But what about women? While it’s becoming more common to hear of women’s struggles with pornography use, many women still perceive that they have the moral high ground over men. Such comparisons don’t help because men and women often struggle in different ways.

 

Stephen Altrogge on The internet makes us all miserable.

In the good old days of jealousy and comparison and coveting, we compared ourselves to those close to us. When someone near to us succeeded, we felt like a failure. But the good old days are gone. Now, thanks to the Internet, we can feel like failures all the time.

Marriage & Decision Making

I’m working on my sermon for tomorrow as we continue The Vow at Revolution called “A Good Woman.” The topic of headship, submission, etc. is always a fun one when preaching on marriage. The question always arises about decision making and if headship means the wife always does what the husband wants.

Here is a great quote found Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood from Wayne Grudem, a little preview of tomorrow night:

Within a healthy Christian marriage, there will be large elements of mutual consultation and seeking of wisdom, and most decisions will come by consensus between husband and wife. For a wife to be submissive to her husband will probably not often involve obeying actual commands or directives, for a husband may rather give requests and seek advice and discussion about the course of action to be followed. Nevertheless, a wife’s attitude of submission to her husband’s authority will be reflected in numerous words and actions each day that reflect deference to his leadership and acknowledgment of his final responsibility – after discussion, whenever possible – to make decisions affection the whole family.

The Vow Kicks Off This Weekend @ Revolution

We have been talking about it for weeks and it is finally here: The Vow starts this Saturday night!

For the next 4 weeks we are going to look at what the Bible has to say about being a man, a woman, how our past (and the past of our parents) keeps us from moving forward, and how to protect your marriage (and your heart, mind and body if you are single).

I believe this is going to be one of the most powerful and eye opening series we have ever done at Revolution. We will also be interspersing some live Q&A throughout the series.

This week, to kick it off, we will look at what the Bible has to say about biblical manhood. What is a man supposed to be according to the Bible? What is a man supposed to be according to our culture? How are they different? Which one do we often default to in our daily lives? The more and more I read about this topic, the more I see what the Bible calls men and women to is drastically different than what our culture does, and this is one of the biggest problems in our culture and relationships.

No one knows what they are supposed to be like.

What Katie and I meet with people and couples, many of the problems in their lives stem from not being sure what their identity is supposed to be. Many people think men should be overgrown boys (no job, playing video games all night), weaklings who let women run them, or chauvinists. I’m not kidding, but an article I read in a well known magazine said those are the 3 choices for men in our culture. The Bible gives a very different picture of manhood.

In addition to this, on Saturday we will then ask the question, “If the Bible says about men is true, what does that mean for women?”

Believe me when I say, you don’t want to miss a week of The Vow and you want to bring someone with you. I have been hearing from Revolutionaries all week about friends, neighbors and co-workers they have invited. Katie and I have been handing out invite cards for several weeks now. An easy way to invite someone is to send them an e-vite.

Remember, we meet at 4:15 & 6pm at 6620 E 22nd St.

Don’t forget to mark your calendars for our Vision Night on August 25th. This is an incredibly important night in the life of our church as we look towards the future and what God is calling us to. For a preview, go here and here.

See you Saturday.

Recommended Resources on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood

Tonight, I preached on Biblical manhood and womanhood from Genesis 2 – 3. Katie joined me on stage to share her two cents and as always did an unbelievable job of painting a picture of what the gospel can do in a woman’s life and a woman of God is called to be. I’m so proud of the journey she’s been on and what God has done in her life. She really is a great example to women of what it means to be a strong woman of God. Too many people think biblical womanhood means you are a doormat or push over with no opinion. I love that Katie can kill that perception.

There are a ton of books on marriage, what a man or woman are supposed to be. Over the 9 years that Katie and I have been married, we have read probably close to 50 books on these topics. Below are our favorites and the ones that have been the most helpful to us and challenged us in our marriage. Hope this list helps.

Links of the Week

  1. John Piper on TULIP. Many people have an opinion about the 5 points of Calvinism, what they mean and how that affects how you live. Piper explains them really well in this series.
  2. Will Mancini on 11 trends for churches in 2011. I always read what Will has to say on church and leadership, this list is no different.
  3. A missional way for the pro-life passion.
  4. Michael Wallenmeyer on Missional (and simple) church is unattractive to cultural Christians. We see this a lot of Revolution because of our goal of being simple and missional.
  5. Tony Morgan on 11 questions every church leader needs to ask. Some good stuff here, a gold mine of questions.
  6. Justin Holcomb on What the Bible says about sexual assault. He recently wrote a great book Rid of my Disgrace: Hope & Healing for Victims of Sexual Assault.
  7. Mary Kassian on the Church in a post-Feminist Era.
  8. Scott Thomas on Parenting Sons.
  9. Dave Bruskas on Parenting daughters.
  10. Mark Driscoll put out a free ebook on Genesis. How to read it, talk about it with kids. Looks great. It looks especially helpful for our next series at Revolution.
  11. 10 characteristics of a missional church.
  12. Jeff Vanderstelt on Leading your people on mission.
  13. Tullian Tchividjian on Gospel gold.