Top Posts for May 2013

In case you missed them, here are the posts that generated the most traffic in the last month:

  1. 21 Skills of Great Preachers
  2. Bring our Child Home from Ethiopia & Serve a Widow
  3. My Notes from Preach Better Sermons
  4. Be Sensitive on Mother’s Day
  5. 15 Ways to Improve Your Marriage
  6. Is Love a Choice or a Feeling (And Why it Matters)
  7. 8 Ways to Know Your Reading is Too Limited
  8. How a Wife Handles Her Husband’s Sexual Addiction
  9. My Notes from Preach the Word 2013
  10. 3 Things Make a Sermon Great

Top Posts of March 2013

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In case you missed them, here are the top posts for the last month:

  1. 15 Ways to Improve Your Marriage
  2. Is Love a Choice or a Feeling (And Why it Matters)
  3. Tuesday Morning Book Review || The Power of Habit
  4. My Journey of Losing Weight
  5. Jeff Gordon Pulls a Prank
  6. How a Wife Handles Her Husband’s Sexual Addiction
  7. Jack Welch’s 6 Rules of Leadership
  8. Responding to the Same-Sex Marriage Debate as a Christian
  9. Stop Giving Him an Out
  10. Interacting with the Opposite Sex as a Pastor

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Top Blog Posts of October 2012

In case you missed them, here are the top posts for the last month:

  1. My Journey of Losing Weight
  2. 15 Ways to Improve Your Marriage
  3. Accountability
  4. Before You Criticize Your Pastor
  5. Saturday Afternoon Book Review: Creating a Missional Culture
  6. Is Love a Choice or a Feeling (And Why it Matters)
  7. Redeeming Halloween
  8. Q: Why Doesn’t Revolution Have a Women’s Ministry
  9. 10 Gospel Truths about Homosexuality
  10. A Simple Time-Management Principle

Top Posts of September 2012

In case you missed them, here are the top posts for the month of September:

  1. Before You Criticize Your Pastor
  2. Kingdom Man
  3. 15 Ways to Improve Your Marriage
  4. Accountability
  5. Saturday Afternoon Book Review: Grace
  6. Does Homeschooling Deny the Missional Life?
  7. Why Pornography Robs a Man of Humanness
  8. Can a Church Give Too Much Grace?
  9. Is Love a Choice or a Feeling (And Why it Matters)
  10. Deep & Wide

You can see previous month’s top posts here.

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Is Love a Choice or a Feeling (And Why it Matters)

In honor of preaching on the topic of marriage at Revolution this past Saturday and this coming Saturday, I thought I’d repost some of the more helpful things I’ve written on the topics of marriage, dating, sexuality, roles, communication and others topics related to marriage.

This is a question that Katie and I pose when we do pre-marital or marriage counseling, “Is love a choice or a feeling?”

In our culture, love is a feeling. It makes you feel light, you think of songs, birds, roses and happy thoughts. It warms you up like hot coffee on a cold day. What this means then is that we talk about love the same way we talk about our favorite team or favorite food, “I love pizza.” If love is a feeling, then you can fall in and out of love depending on your mood or what is happening in your life.

The other side of this sees love simply as a choice. It makes loves into a cold thing. When it is a feeling, it makes it romantic and human, while a choice makes it feel like love is robotic.

I think it is both.

Love is a feeling, this is what will drive our romance and will keep us moving when life happens. Love is a choice because you will get to the place in marriage where you will have to choose to stay married and choose to love this person.

The longer you are married, the harder you will have to work to stay married. If you go into marriage thinking that it won’t be any work or that you can sit back and relax now that you are married, you will have a hard time staying married.

The reality is, each morning, a couple must wake up and decide “I will love this person.”