Hug Your Daughter

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Few dads realize how important hugging is to their daughters, but I’ve heard countless girls tell me they had sex with a boy (not even a boyfriend) simply for the physical contact, because their fathers never hugged them or showed them affection. Her body starves for you to hug her. The need is especially raw during her teen years. Fathers often assume that their teenage daughters want to be left alone and don’t want to be hugged. This isn’t true—in fact, it couldn’t be more wrong. She needs your touch during these years even more than when she was five. I know that popular culture tells you that teenagers “need their space,” that teenagers are tricky and can leave you unsure what to do, that it might seem safer to opt out and simply do nothing, but that’s all wrong. Your teenager needs you. It’s far more dangerous to opt out of your daughter’s life and do nothing than it is to be a close part of her life, and you know exactly what to do. Just be her dad: be confident, defend her and be supportive, and don’t back away from hugging her. -Meg Meeker, M.D.  Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know

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The 3 Most Destructive Words a Man Hears Growing up Are: “Be a Man”

As a dad to 4 boys and the pastor of a church that hopes to reach men, this is so true. Really intriguing.

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Links I Like

Links I Like is a collection of blogs, articles and books I’ve come across recently and thought they were worth sharing. Click here for past Links I Like.

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  1. Practicing biblical hospitality.
  2. Geoff Surratt on 3 reasons guests don’t return to your church.
  3. An email from a proud deadbeat dad. Love Matt’s response. Definitely shows what is wrong with men in our culture.
  4. John Piper on Parents, require obedience from your children.
  5. 6 trends in kids ministry.
  6. Carlos Whitaker on 4 tips on how to handle social media with your kids. Great tips for parents.
  7. One father writes a letter to his daughters about body image. If you have a daughter, help her understand biblical body image.
  8. 30 hour work week.

Links I Like

Links I Like is a collection of blogs, articles and books I’ve come across recently and thought they were worth sharing. Click here for past Links I Like.

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  1. Luke Simmons on Quality always leads to growth in a church.
  2. 10 habits of highly successful leaders.
  3. Aaron Armstrong on 2 ways to encourage dad’s on father’s day.
  4. Characteristics of leaders who last.

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Links I Like

Links I Like is a collection of blogs, articles and books I’ve come across recently and thought they were worth sharing. Click here for past Links I Like
  1. The biggest mistake church leaders make.
  2. Christianity Today shares The top 100 things people are giving up for Lent.
  3. Forbes Magazine on The 5 biggest mistakes Steve Jobs made. I love Steve Jobs. As a communicator and leader he made a ton of great choices and was extremely talented. This is a great post on what we can learn from his mistakes.
  4. Thom Rainer on 10 reflections of being a church consultant for a decade. Tons of wisdom here for church leaders.
  5. Daniel Darling on 5 things every son needs to hear from his dad and 5 things every daughter needs to hear from her dad. If you’re a parent, read and re-read these posts. Wow.
  6. Children and the culture of pornography. As a parent, this will be the most disturbing and sad thing you’ll read today. But read it, because it is real.

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Top Blog Posts for November 2012

In case you missed them, here are the top blog posts for the last month:

  1. Accountability
  2. 15 Ways to Improve Your Marriage
  3. My Journey of Losing Weight
  4. The Role of Men in the Family
  5. Why We Sin so Easily
  6. 10 Ways to Know if You’re Putting Your Kids Before Your Spouse
  7. Is Love a Choice or a Feeling (And Why it Matters)
  8. Losing Weight Part 2: The Idol of Food
  9. 10 Gospel Truths about Homosexuality
  10. Why a Pastor Should be in a Missional Community or Small Group

Links of the Week

    1. Daughters & Dad’s approval. Shows the pivotal role a father plays in the life of a daughter.
    2. Kem Meyer on 5 missing ingredients of great teams.
    3. 10 ways to handle the church critic.
    4. Jon Acuff on Calling your wife your bride. I agree, it kind of weirds me out.
    5. Michael Hyatt on 5 consequences of living life out of balance.
    6. Charles Stone on How to respond when someone leaves your church. No matter how often this happens, this always hurts.
    7. How to involve kids in a missional community. Helpful things here.
    8. Jayne Vanderstelt on a Wife’s role in serving a missional community.
    9. Dan Kimball on Francis Chan’s new book Erasing Hell. Can’t wait to read this.

Links of the Week

  1. Never make fun of your spouse. My wife Katie has been doing a series of blog posts on our relationship rules and this one is broken by so many spouses. This one change would make a world of difference in your marriage.
  2. All you need to know about church planting in 3 minutes.
  3. Ron Edmondson on Addressing a porn generation.
  4. 4 lessons from Martin Luther on Marriage. This is a great article.
  5. Dave Bruskas on What I’ve learned from raising daughters. Dave is a pastor in New Mexico and has raised 4 daughters so I’d take that as being an expert on the topic.
  6. Gabe Lyons on A third way for the ‘Christian nation’ debate.
  7. How to leave a church well. Sometimes people leave for good reasons and leave well, but often they leave for poor reasons and leave the church by throwing rocks. Love the example from the book of Acts, maybe that is why churches today don’t see the effectives they did in the book of Acts.
  8. Pastors who suffering from relational anorexia. Pastoring is one of the loneliest jobs on the planet, but there are some things you can do to fight it.
  9. Tony Morgan on Signs you have a vision that inspires. These are right on, the clarity at Revolution has inspired people and repelled people. Vision divides and that is okay.
  10. Who needs porn when you have MTV? This is crucial for parents to keep in mind as they raise kids and what they allow on TV. (Note: there is a semi-explicit photo accompanying the article).
  11. 10 easy bible verses for kids to memorize. We have a verse of the week at our house and it has been awesome to see the kids start memorizing scripture.
  12. Loving our Muslim neighbors. This is a great video panel discussion with J.D. Greear and Thabiti Anyabwile.
  13. Christopher Wright on The biggest obstacle for world missions is idolatry. This is a convicting article.
  14. J. Oswald Sanders on Are you ready to be a leader? These are great questions to work through if you want to enter into leadership or have a desire to take on more leadership in your church or business.

Saturday Night Mind Dump…

  • Wow
  • I know I say that a lot and I should probably come up with other ways to describe what God is doing at Revolution, but words really fail me
  • Every week, we are seeing more and more people, more and more new faces and more and more people taking their next steps in their spiritual journey
  • Tonight, we wrapped up our 22 week series on Nehemiah
  • It has been an amazing 22 weeks
  • If you are a pastor, I highly recommend preaching through Nehemiah
  • If you need a head start, here are the commentaries I used
  • Tonight I laid out the 3 things men are supposed to be
  • There is one bar in scripture for men, not one for church leaders and one for everyone else
  • One bar, for every man
  • Most churches have made it so low that a 14 year old boy who can open a Bible is seen as a Godly man
  • Ridiculous
  • No wonder men are leaving the church in droves
  • We have made following Jesus boring, passionless, adventureless and you can carry your cross without needing a cross
  • Sorry, that was a tangent
  • I’m done preaching
  • If you want some great resources to go with tonight’s talk, check out these books:  What he must be if he wants to marry my daughter, Family driven faith and Big truths for young hearts
  • Ending a series is always bittersweet for me
  • I love the idea of starting a new series, but I am sad to see the old series end
  • God has done so much over the last 22 weeks in me and in our church
  • I am so, so excited about our next series
  • The next month is going to be so exciting at Revolution
  • Can’t wait to see what happens
  • A good friend of mine is speaking this coming Saturday at Revolution which gives me the opportunity to work ahead
  • The goal this week is to get through a lot of Acts 29 application process for Revolution and write the study guide for our Ultimate Fighter series on 2 Timothy we are starting in August
  • Tomorrow is our next newcomer’s brunch
  • I love these things, being able to hang out with new people at Revolution, answering questions, hearing what God is doing in people’s lives
  • Love it
  • Laid out what I am hoping to read this summer, if you are curious
  • I don’t know if you are excited, but I am pumped that we are less than a week from the greatest sporting event in the world
  • The World Cup
  • I get this question a lot, so if you are curious about what a pastor does when he doesn’t preach, read this
  • We are going to be having a rummage sale to raise money for our adoption on June 26th, so stay tuned for details
  • Tonight’s mind dump will end as abruptly as Nehemiah ended