Control Your Own Destiny


Yesterday was week 17 of a thrilling NFL season. As a Steelers fan, I could hardly believe that we still had a shot at the playoffs after starting 0-4. While it was disappointing we didn’t get in, and one of my sons did cry about it, but it got me thinking: football is easier when you control your own destiny. 

The same is true in life.

It is easier when you control your own destiny. 

Yet, so many people don’t.

Here’s what I mean.

We allow others to dictate what is important to us. What we spend our money on. What things our kids sign up for. Where we vacation. If we exercise or not or have an overall healthy lifestyle. Others dictate how we run our calendars, work habits, and even emotions.

For many people, very little of what they do is what they want to do.

Which leaves them tired, burned out, stressed, lifeless and ultimately, playing catch up instead of walking into the playoffs of life.

Here are 4 things you can do to control your own destiny:

  1. Decide you will. This is the first step of anything. If you are struggling with an addiction, you have to identify it and decide this is the time to change. It is the same with your destiny. Make a conscious choice to control it and put things into place to keep this true in your life.
  2. Accountability and systems to make it happen. You may need to have a friend hold you accountable with this. You might need to put some systems into place. If you have kids, keep the activities they do at a time to one. Not 4, but one. Keep the extra things you do to one. Will this keep you or your kids from having a well rounded, experiential life? I’m not sure, but that isn’t the goal. Who cares if they play 5 sports or do dance, horseback riding, cello lessons and soccer. Oh, you care? Someone else cares for you? Then read point #3.
  3. Identify the fear, idol, or desire that causes you to give away your destiny. This drives so much of what we do. We talked about this yesterday at Revolution. The fear we will miss out or not matter drives so much of what we do and the choices we make with our calendar, money and lifestyle. Stop it. Identify that this is a lie and identify the truth. The person who is driving this in your life did not die on the cross for you and rise from the dead to set you free. Jesus did. If you have trusted in this, you are approved. Your destiny is set. Which leads to the last one.
  4. Trust that God’s destiny is better than what someone else can come up with for you. Approval in God is hard to believe sometimes. The idea that I am approved as a follower of Jesus because of his death and resurrection is hard to believe. I can’t be more approved in him. There isn’t some approval waiting around a corner that I haven’t experienced yet. Because of this, my destiny is set and secure. This is a daily practice of reminding myself of this. Believing my destiny is secure and it is better than what I could come up with or the person(s) driving me right now.


AFC Champs

In case you haven’t heard, the Pittsburgh Steelers are the AFC champs. As a Steelers fan, this is sweet, but what makes it sweeter is that we did it by beating the Baltimore Ravens. I don’t think there is a team in the NFL that I dislike more and so beating them to make it to the Super Bowl is awesome.

Even though the Cardinals will put up a good fight, the Steelers will prevail 24-14. That’s what having the league’s number 1 defense gets you.

Saturday Night Mind Dump…

  • Can’t begin to tell you how awesome tonight was
  • Great to have Paul and Jennifer here
  • Laid out our small group strategy tonight, can’t wait to see how God uses them to help people get connected to each other
  • Awesome to see people signing up for small groups tonight
  • We issued a tithing challenge last week, you can read about it here
  • You do not want to miss our Christmas Eve service, we are doing something we have never done before, it will have a lot of people scratching their heads, but will create a ton of conversation
  • 7 first time visitors tonight, love seeing how people find their way to Revolution
  • Got a lot of my ideas for tonight from two books:  Activate by Nelson Searcy and Sticky Church by Larry Osborne
  • So excited about getting the lights in this week, they will be finished on Tuesday and in full effect for Christmas Eve
  • Had a budget meeting this past week, awesome to dream, pray and plan as we move into our new fiscal year
  • You’ll hear more about this in a few weeks at Revolution
  • Huge Steelers game tomorrow, for home field advantage, all the marbles
  • You need to do whatever you can to get your friends and family members to our Christmas Eve service, going to be laying out the gospel in a really clear way
  • I love the winter in Tucson, beautiful
  • Katie and I have 2 date nights planned this week since we have free babysitting with family in town
  • We’re going to Elle Wine Country the one night and going to see Valkeryie the other night
  • Sitting here watching the Cowboys & Ravens game with some Cowboy fans, I’m hopin the boys win since I don’t want to play Ravens in the playoffs
  • My sister comes into town tomorrow and then my mom comes in Tuesday, pretty excited about seeing my family
  • You do not want to miss our Christmas Eve service, it is going to be awesome, great challenge at the end
  • Our church is slowly getting more and more comfortable and more excited during the music, keep it coming
  • Be praying about our Christmas offering on the 24th, we’re giving 100% of it away
  • 2009 is going to be insane at Revolution, so much stuff happening at the beginning of the year and throughout the year, it is going to be an awesome year
  • We’re going to Winterhaven this week, should be fun
  • The Cowboys offsense has decided to not show up tonight
  • I’m loving HD, amazing
  • Gonna finish the game, head to bed, then a huge day of NFL tomorrow