Rex Ryan: The Model Father?


This past Saturday, Rex Ryan, head coach of the NY Jets caused a stir in New York City by skipping out on the last day of cuts and going to see his son dress for a college football game at Clemson. His son is a walk on for that team.

If you aren’t familiar with “cut day” for the NFL, it is when all teams must get their rosters to 53 players. This day was Saturday, the same day as the Clemson football game.

According to one NY reporter, “his trip to watch his son play is ‘big F.U. to all of the players,’ that coach was going to watch son play…Ryan shirked his professional responsibilities for personal ones.”

Did he shirk his professional responsibilities for personal ones? According to ProFootballTalk, “Ryan had permission from the Jets owner to attend the game.”

Let’s say it is true and he had permission to attend the game. The question becomes if it was a wise move.

From the perspective of a father, the answer is yes. They didn’t decide who was being cut that morning. Those cuts were in the process all week. It isn’t like Rex Ryan could not be reached if something came up.

How many times does your son dress for his first college football game? Once. You can’t replace that. I still remember my first college soccer game that I dressed for. I was so excited about it and my dad surprised me by driving 5 hours one way to see it. Right when the game was over, he drove 5 hours back because he had to work the next day. And I played 0 minutes in that game, but he was there to see me dress. I had accomplished one of my goals and he didn’t miss it.

That’s choosing what matters.

If you are a dad, you have professional responsibilities and personal responsibilities. Everyday is a balancing act of those 2 worlds. There are times you won’t be able to get back. The “first” experiences your kids have of anything is one of those. Being at games, recitals, plays, concerts, don’t come around again. As a father, every choice you make with your time and your family has enormous implications for years to come. Every adult can look back on their childhood and see the absence or presence of their father and know this is true.

I would say, as a father, Rex Ryan made the only choice that should have been on the table.


NFL Picks


I can’t begin to tell you how excited I am for football to start tomorrow. Every year, I like to post my picks for the year and hear your picks, so feel free to leave your disagreements and comments below.

Here you go:

NFC Division Winners:

  • Washington Redskins
  • Green Bay Packers
  • New Orleans Saints
  • San Francisco 49ers

NFC Wild Card:

  • Atlanta Falcons
  • Philadelphia Eagles

AFC Division Winners:

  • New England Patriots
  • Cincinnati Bengals
  • Indianapolis Colts
  • Denver Broncos

AFC Wild Card:

  • Pittsburgh Steelers
  • Baltimore Ravens


Fake Football is Here!


I had my fantasy football draft last night. Pretty excited about it. I won the league last year and it is a keeper league, so we could keep 4 players. It’s a 12 team league with points per reception. Here’s my draft. The (K) means they were a keeper:

  1. AJ Green
  2. Adrian Peterson (K)
  3. Darren McFadden
  4. Daryl Richardson
  5. Reggie Wayne (K)
  6. Giovani Bernard
  7. Shane Vereen
  8. Golden Tate
  9. Ryan Broyles
  10. Justin Blackmon
  11. Danny Amendola (K)
  12. Colin Kapernick (K)
  13. Jordan Cameron
  14. Brian Hartline
  15. New York Jets Defense
  16. Jacquizz Rodgers

This post simply means football is almost here!

NFL Playoff Picks

Every year, I post my picks to make the playoffs. I did well 2 years ago, but last year, not so much.

Here are this year’s picks:

NFC Division Winners

  • Eagles
  • Packers
  • Falcons
  • Seahawks

NFC Wild Card

  • Bears
  • 49ers

AFC Division Winners

  • Patriots
  • Steelers
  • Texans
  • Chargers

AFC Wild Card

  • Bills
  • Ravens

Super Bowl Matchup: Steelers vs. Packers

Super Bowl Winner: Packers

I hate to write that as a Steelers fan, but those are my predictions sure to go wrong.

Who do you have this year?

Fantasy Football: The Night Fury

For the 3 of you who care, here is my fantasy team. I had the last pick in a 12 team snake draft. And it’s a keeper league. Feeling pretty good about my draft.

  1. Matt Forte
  2. Cam Newton
  3. A.J. Green
  4. Wes Welker
  5. Antonio Brown
  6. Shonn Green
  7. Reggie Wayne
  8. Rashard Mendenhall
  9. Santonio Holmes
  10. Jacquizz Rodgers
  11. Dustin Keller
  12. Ryan Williams
  13. Daniel Thomas
  14. Davone Bess
  15. New England
  16. Rob Bironas

2011 NFL Picks

For the 4 of you who care, each year I post my NFL picks for the year. The NFL is the only league I really follow so I get pretty pumped about it every September. Here are my picks from last year, so I did pretty good just had the winner wrong. Still bitter about that.

Without further ado, here are my picks for this year:

NFC Division Winners:

  • Eagles
  • Packers
  • Saints
  • Rams
NFC Wild Card:
  • Falcons
  • Cowboys
AFC Division Winners:
  • Jets
  • Steelers
  • Texans
  • Chargers
AFC Wild Card:
  • Patriots
  • Ravens
Super Bowl Matchup:  Falcons vs. Steelers
Super Bowl Winner:  Steelers
Who you got?

My Fantasy Team

For the 3 of you who are wondering about my fantasy team, I had my draft last night and here is how it turned out. I had the 6th pick in a 12 team league. It was interesting as we drafted individual defensive players instead of defenses.

  1. Rashard Mendenhall
  2. Roddy White
  3. Matt Ryan
  4. Desean Jackson
  5. Santonio Holmes
  6. Jahvid Best
  7. Brandon Pettigrew
  8. Joseph Addai
  9. Steve Smith (CAR)
  10. Ray Lewis
  11. Jonathan Stewart
  12. A.J. Green
  13. Ryan Fitzpatrick
  14. Mike Williams
  15. Thomas Jones
  16. Jacoby Ford
  17. Troy Polamalu
  18. Jared Allen
  19. Jay Feely

Felt pretty solid about my draft and my team is called Captain Awesome.

NFL Picks

I know many of you have been dying to know what my NFL picks are, so here they are:

AFC Division Winners: Patriots, Ravens, Colts, Chargers

Wild Cards: Steelers, Dolphins

NFC Division Winners: Cowboys, Packers, Saints, 49ers

Wild Cards: Vikings, Eagles

Super Bowl: Packers vs. Steelers

Super Bowl Winner: Steelers

I realize, this is a homer pick as the Steelers are my favorite team, and yes you should always think your team will make it (unless you are a Raiders or Lions fan). I think we will ride the wave of Roethlisberger’s suspension and we will make the playoffs as a wild card, go on the road and raise the Lombardi trophy in Dallas.

Who you got?

Be Clear (What Leaders can Learn From How the Steelers are Handling Their QB Situation)

I’m a huge Steelers fan. This offseason has been interesting to say the least. When news of Big Ben being out for 6 games (it will end up being 4 games), it threw things into disarray for the team. Everyone wondered, who would take his place while he was gone?

The team brought back Byron Leftwich. From the beginning, Coach Mike Tomlin said he would not name a starting QB while Ben was gone, but throughout camp and in the preseason, Leftwich has run with the first team. While this is fine, the problem is that Dixon has played better than him.

Here lies the problem, no one knows who is going to be the guy. While Leftwich continues to get the reps and looks like he will get the start, Steeler nation cries out for Dixon to play (including several players), or at the very least, be given a shot with the first team to show if he can do it.

This is where many pastors find themselves. They aren’t willing to say, “This is the win for us and this isn’t.” They lack clarity. When one lacks clarity, everything is fair game, everything is a good idea, everything is a win.

Sunday night, I taught our partnership class. In that class, I spend a chunk of time clarifying the win for Revolution. Afterward, I had several people tell me that it was nice to know what the win was. It brings momentum, clarity, it makes life easier and you know how to spend money and make decisions.