I get asked a lot by Dad’s what to do on daddy dates, how do you talk with your kids on daddy dates. If we’re honest as Dad’s, daddy dates are something we want to do, they are fun, we want to have a relationship with our kids. It is just intimidating.
I first started daddy dates when Ava was 18 months old. I wanted to give Katie a break and I decided early on I was going to beat that punk kid with cheap jewelry, driving his dad’s car from stealing her heart. I figured I had a head start.
Here are some goals for a good daddy date:
- It is about being with your child. Turn your phone off, be present with them.
- Do what they want to do. This isn’t about what you want to do, although sometimes it can be introducing them to a hobby of yours like rock climbing, hiking, fishing, depending on the age.
- It doesn’t have to be anything major. You don’t need to go out to eat each time. You don’t even need to spend money. One of the favorite things for my boys is to take them to a skate park where they can ride their scooters while I watch and make videos of it.
- Talk to them. This is awkward depending on their age, but try.
- Listen to some good kids worship music in the car. This is our current favorite.
Questions I ask:
- What are you learning right now in school?
- What do you want to talk about today?
- How can I pray for you?
Because of the age of our kids, right now daddy dates typically are me with one of them at a local coffee shop sharing a treat. Find a rhythm that works for your family. I do one daddy date a week with a different child, they each take turns.
What do you do on your daddy dates that works well?