I want to talk today about what a church can do to help their leaders in the area of criticism. I was talking to a pilot once and he said, “You have people tell you how to preach, disciple people, counsel people, do marriages, how to talk to people, basically your whole church tells you how to be a pastor. If someone walked into my plane and told me how to fly I’d punch them.” While I can’t do that, think about how you would feel if someone who is not your boss looked over your shoulder and said, “I don’t like that or that and here is why.”
Being part of a church, there are some things you can do to help your pastor’s in the area of criticism:
- If you have a problem with your pastor, or something he has said. Tell him. Don’t tell your small group, his wife or send a mass email. Go to him and tell him.
- Be humble about it. Before bringing criticism, search your heart. Why are you criticizing him? Is it because he said something that convicted you?
- If you have a problem with someone, talk to them. Don’t talk to everyone else. Don’t ask the pastor to fix it, he didn’t do it.
- If you hear someone criticize your pastor, tell them, “Let’s go talk with the pastor so this doesn’t fester anymore and I don’t want to be party to your sin.” Your job as part of the church is to protect the pastor and the unity of the church.
- Pray for your pastor and his wife. What they do is not easy. They take the arrows you never see. They walk in the muck of people’s lives. They help in marriages and hard times and then have those same people turn around and stab them in the back. Pray especially for them the night before your worship gathering as Satan is working overtime on them to distract them.
- If the pastor does something you don’t like, takes the church in a direction you wouldn’t. As long as it is biblical, stick with him. Support him. He may end up taking you to a place you like, you just don’t know it.
- Ask the pastor and his wife what you can do to support them and help them. Maybe you can babysit them for free to give them a date night. Maybe you can help the pastor’s wife with their kids at church as she is essentially a single parent at church because her husband is working.