Yesterday marked 8 years that Katie and I have been married. I have known Katie for almost half of my life. Crazy.
I am still blown away that I convinced her to marry me. In fact, everyone who meets us thinks the same thing. I am often asked how I pulled it off or I’m told how she is out of my league. Which I guess is good because then I have to work hard to keep her (just kidding, about the keeping her part, not the working hard part).
A lot has happened in 8 years. We got married in Lancaster, PA, we now live in Tucson, AZ. We have 3 kids and we are in the process of an international adoption. We’re no longer doing student ministry and have since started a church, which is growing and God is blessing in ways we only dreamed of 2 years ago.
I made a list of the things I love about Katie and I thought I’d share some of the list with you:
- She is more beautiful to me today than she was when she stole the soccer ball from me on the day we met.
- She pushes me to grow to become a better man, husband, father, pastor and leader. She won’t let me settle in life. Just the other day she asked me what my vision for the future of Revolution is. We are always talking about what our kids will become and how they will become that. What our marriage will become and how it will get there. Nothing in life just happens and she keeps that in front of me.
- She loved me when I was fat. Few people know this but I have lost about 80 pounds in the last 18 months. In fact, when we got married, I was 115 pounds heavier than I am right now. I just looked at our wedding pictures and I am not sure why she said yes. Katie just told me I had a “killer personality.”
- She listens to me preach and vision cast, a lot. Throughout the week she listens to me talk about my sermon, she asks questions, helps to shape it, makes it clearer. By the time I preach it and she sits through Saturday night, she has heard it more than 5 times. She never complains about this.
- Revolution would not exist without her. When we got started, we had a great team who did a lot of stuff. Everything needed to get done, so people jumped in and did it. I helped with set up and running sound, it needed to be done. When we started, Katie did the admin stuff, the kids ministry and whatever else had to happen. All to get Revolution off the ground. What I love is that she never complained, she never asked for credit. In fact, few people know this, but without Katie, Revolution would not exist.
- She has followed my crazy dreams. Most wives would not move clear across the country to start a church that has no guarantee of making it or making any money. Yet, when I threw the idea out to Katie about moving to Tucson and we came to visit her response was, “We have to do this.”
- She supports me. I talk to countless pastors whose wives despise that they are pastors. I saw a study once that almost 75% of pastors wives said, “The worst day of their lives was the day their husband entered the ministry.” I’m grateful that even though our journey has been hard, Katie has stuck by me and my calling of being a pastor is our calling as a couple.
- She is the best mom. Our kids love her, she has endless amounts of patience with them, she is a great teacher to them. I cannot imagine a better partner to parent with.
- She knows me so well. She can complete my sentence. She can look at me and know exactly what I am thinking about a situation or a person before I say anything.
- She is spontaneous. This used to annoy me because I am a planner, but she has helped me to see the fun in not having life planned out.
Those are just a few reasons why I am so grateful that God gave Katie to me. She told me that God gave her a love for me. So, I’m grateful that God stepped in (apparently that was my only hope).
Anyway, as I sit and write this list. I am so excited to see what the next 8 years hold and what God does in our kids and in our marriage between now and then. I look forward to the best years being ahead of us and falling more in love with her than I am today.