Saturday night, I preached on handling adversity, criticism and opposition from Nehemiah 4:1 – 14. This topic is all over the book of Nehemiah and it is something every leader experiences, a lot.
The reality is criticism and opposition is inevitable if you do anything great for God. No one in the Bible or church history did something great for God and escaped opposition. People oppose people who great things. When you do something great for God, you are pushing the status quo, you are also making other people realize what they have not done with their lives. So people criticize. It is easier to criticize than actually do something with your life.
But if it is inevitable, how do you handle it? Too often, criticism derails not only our lives, but also churches. The list of what our critics have said about me and our church since starting is endless. But criticism will either stop God from using you or make you strong enough to get through what is ahead.
In churches, conversations go like this:
“I’ve heard from a lot of people about how upset everyone is about what we are doing or the direction we are going.”
“Well, who is upset because I’d like to talk with them?”
“Well, I told them I wouldn’t say their names.”
Which means, you are talking to the only person who is upset. The problem is that too many of us and too many pastors allow that one person to dictate our lives.
If you are in leadership, you are going to make someone mad. It is a matter of when, not if. Someone will not like how you preach, what your mission is, how loud the music is, that you do small groups, that you are a simple church, that you are missional. Pick something and you will find someone who doesn’t like it. Pick something else and you will find a different person who is mad.
If you are a leader, get used to it.
The difference between people with a dream and visionaries is the visionary took their dream, went through opposition and found a vision worth giving their life for.
That’s what Nehemiah did.
He had a dream, that became a vision. A vision is something you would give up everything to accomplish. To make it through opposition, this is what you need to have.
Nehemiah experienced critics, opposition, discouragement, from both outside the building project and from within the building project. Opposition will come from all sides. He heard it, he gave it over to God, he ignored them and got back to work. He dealt with it, but he never engaged them. This is incredible to me. He didn’t try to reason with them, ask for their side, try to make things better. He prayed one of the most honest prayers in the Bible (4:4 – 5) and then got back to work.
Want to make your critics mad? Get back to work. Do what they are mad about.
The reality is, critics don’t say anything new. They just give voice to your deepest fears.
So, since criticism is inevitable if you are going to do anything great for God. Give it over to God and get back to work. Don’t let it stop you. Don’t let it derail you.
The mission is too big, and our God is too big to pay attention.
This morning, Katie, Paul, Jennifer and myself are getting in the car and trekking to California. We’re going to the Radicalis Conference at Saddleback Church. I am really, really excited about this week and what it holds.
One of the things I am really excited about are the individual tracks they have. Katie is doing the Pastor’s wife track with Kay Warren and Chris Shook, and I am doing the preaching track with Rick Warren and Tom Holladay.
In addition to all of this, some of the main session speakers are Rick Warren, Mark Driscoll, Perry Noble, Andy Stanley, Kerry Shook, Dino Rizzo, and Ed Stetzer.
Watch the blog throughout the week as I will be live blogging my notes for all of the sessions. You can also follow all of the action for the week either through twitter or facebook.
We’d appreciate your prayers as we travel, being away from our kids (we have never left all three kids before), that it would be a great time of learning, community, growing and refreshing. We’ll be back Friday and ready to rock and roll this Saturday night at Revolution (You don’t want to miss this week at Revolution, we have some awesome things planned).
- Perry Noble on How to get buy in from your staff part 1 and part 2.
- Why Tim Tebow’s super bowl ad is a good thing. (From the perspective of a pro-choice journalist). This is a great article.
- Meet Acts 29 church planter Jared Ayers. I went to college with Jared and his dad did our wedding. Awesome to hear how things are going and how God is using them in Philadelphia.
- C.J. Mahaney on How Dad’s can proactively watch the super bowl. Great insights into how to protect your family, enjoy the game and how to use the game as a launching point with your kids.
For Christmas this year, I got a new camera. When I was high school, I took some photography classes and loved it. Now that we have kids we decided we needed to do a better job of chronicling their lives and having more pictures. So, we got the camera.
I decided to start Foto Friday here on the blog. The plan is, each week, I’ll share some pictures of life in our family and what is happening in our world.
One of the things I started doing before Revolution started was meeting with a spiritual director. As a pastor and communicator, a big part of my job is helping others with their spiritual journey, answering questions, giving guidance and helping people see where God is working in their lives. I love this about my job. The problem I ran into was I needed someone to help me with that.
Last week, during my monthly session, I was sharing about the weight of pastoring. It is hard to describe the weight a pastor carries. While all jobs have weights, for me I feel the financial, spiritual, relational, emotional weight, as well as the calling that is on my life for this job.
As I was describing this and all the things God has done in the last few months at Revolution (which have been amazing and God has done some unbelievable things at our church) she asked me, “How do you handle success?”
It stopped me in my tracks.
She went on, “Do you ever just sit and bathe in what God is doing, what God has done? Or, are you so focused on the next thing, looking for the next problem that you miss what God is doing?”
As a church planter, it is bred in us to be a fighter. It takes a fighter to make it, church planting is not for the faint of heart. You also don’t want to have the idea that you have arrived or made it as a church. You don’t want to be prideful or think God is moving because of you.
I left thinking, “Am I allowed to enjoy what God is doing?”
The answer is yes. A resounding yes.
So, now I’m celebrating more. I’m bathing in what God is doing. I’m trying to be more present to enjoy what God is doing around me, in me and through me.
So, leaders. Do you enjoy success? Do you enjoy when God moves and he uses you, or, are you off to the next thing, looking for the next fire to put out, the next problem to solve?
I am enjoying God moving and using me. I am enjoying God’s success.
“Broken relationships, broken families, broken promises, broken values, broken hearts, broken lives in a broken-down world…
In the midst of this mess, allow the local church to function as the church envisioned by Jesus Christ – a thriving, radiating center of Christian love reaching out in self-sacrificing concern toward the needs of contemporary women, men and children. Let the church really be the church and watch it exert a supernatural power of attraction that will irresistibly draw our secular, community-starved contemporaries within its sphere of influence, bring them to Christ in the most natural manner, and integrate them into its life.
The best shot at evangelism is to encourage churches to become and to live as authentic, biblically defined communities so that the Lord himself can become their Master Evangelist.” – Dr. Gilbert Bilezikian
I was reading Exodus 18 – 20 this morning. It is the classic passage on delegation. Whenever you go to a pastor’s conference, someone is bound to use this passage to show how to delegate. The example of Moses doing everything for the Israelites and not handing things off, for a number of reasons, is something every pastor and leader can relate to.
Jethro (Moses’ Father in law) watches as all the people line up to let Moses answer their questions and make decisions for them. Jethro asks him, “Why are you doing this? All by yourself?”
Moses answers, “Because the people come to me with questions about God. When something comes up, they come to me.”
Now, it is easy to look at this and think, but Moses is wise. Maybe Moses was the best person to do this, the best person to answer all their questions. But Moses also kept other people from being involved. By doing this, he was really being selfish by not allowing others to help and he was setting up a system that made it that only he could answer people’s questions.
One of the things that many pastors struggle with is letting go of things. Letting go of control and letting other leaders step up. Not being in every meeting, every conversation, every decision. This makes the pastor the bottleneck of the church. It keeps the church from being healthy and effective, and it keeps highly talented leaders from doing what God created them to do.
Once in my coaching network, Nelson made the comment that there are two reasons churches do not break through the 65 and 125 barrier (these are considered the two hardest growth barriers for a church to breakthrough). They are connected: either the pastor will not give up control and delegate to other leaders, or the church won’t let him.
At Revolution, we are entering this stage. We prepared for it by raising up leaders and passing things off to them before we needed to. We have always tried to be ahead of growth and staff and prepare for it instead of reacting to it. I shared on Saturday night that right now, you don’t have to talk to me to get involved and connected at Revolution. That is awesome.
We are trying to remove the barriers to breaking through 125 before we have them. This is exciting and scary for me as the lead pastor. Giving anything away as a person is difficult, but when you start a church or business, it is hard to let others care as much as you do. Even though they do, it is still hard.
I was reminded Saturday night how many people in our church care about Revolution and how much effort everyone puts in to make it happen. As a leader, I am humbled by this.
In a growing church, the lead pastor must let go of control to high capacity leaders. They must let leaders do what God created them to do. It is a win-win situation.
A leader must learn to control what they can control. A leader can control what they give away and how they do when they give it away.
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